Charu Sareen Gujjal, the mommy blogger behind The Mom Sagas, is the kind of parenting voice every mother wants to hear. Warm, real, and wonderfully relatable, Charu shares her journey of raising twins with a mix of honesty, humour, and heart. Through her stories, simple techniques, and everyday parenting wisdom, she makes moms feel seen, supported, and a little less alone. Whether she’s talking about Mindful motherhood or celebrating small victories, Charu brings a gentle comfort that reminds parents that it’s okay to slow down, breathe, and enjoy the messy, magical moments of raising kids.
In this heart-to-heart chat, Charu Gujjal opens up about the tiny everyday moments that shape a child’s confidence, the unseen signs parents often miss, and the playful rituals she uses at home with her twins.
What follows is an honest, warm conversation—one that feels less like an interview and more like two mothers talking over chai about the joys, doubts, and surprises of raising children.
Every parent dreams of raising a confident child — but where does that journey really begin? Over morning hugs or bedtime talks?
Honestly, I think it begins in the tiniest, most ordinary moments – when you least expect it. For me, it began when my twins were toddlers and I learned to pause before correcting them. When they built something messy or said something silly, instead of jumping in, I’d just smile and say, ‘Tell me more.’
Confidence doesn’t grow from big pep talks – it grows quietly in those small moments when a child feels heard, accepted, and trusted.
What signs can parents watch for if their child is struggling with low self-esteem?
I’ve seen it in my own kids – it’s not always about them saying ‘I can’t do this.’ Sometimes it’s the little things – like them hesitating to try something new, seeking constant approval (‘Is this good, Mama?’), or giving up too quickly.
Another subtle sign is when they start comparing themselves to others – even siblings or friends. That’s usually my cue to step in, slow down, and remind them that they don’t need to be perfect to be loved.
You often talk about Mindful parenting. Share 5 everyday habits that can make a big difference in boosting a child’s confidence.
I truly believe it’s not about doing grand things – it’s about showing up consistently in small ways. These little habits, when practiced daily, slowly build a strong sense of self in kids:
- Listen fully – without cutting them off, even when their stories make no sense!
- Let them make small choices -like what to wear or how to set the table. It makes them feel capable.
- Celebrate effort, not results – we clap for trying, not just for winning.
- Apologize when you’re wrong– it teaches them that mistakes are normal.
- End the day with gratitude – every night, we say one thing we’re proud of ourselves for. It’s our tiny ‘confidence ritual.’
Social media has become a big part of growing up. How can parents turn screen time into something that uplifts rather than compares?
I think it starts with how we use it. Kids copy what they see. I try to show them that social media can be about sharing joy, not seeking validation.
At home, we turn screen time into ‘learn time’ or ‘create time.’ We follow positive creators, DIY pages, travel vlogs, and even cooking channels together. That way, they see it as something inspiring.
What’s a playful activity or game that secretly boosts a child’s self-esteem while they’re just having fun?
We play something called ‘Super You’- everyone takes turns saying one superpower they think the other person has. Like, my daughter once said, ‘Mama’s superpower is finding lost things,’ and my son said, ‘Mine is making everyone laugh.’ It sounds simple, but it helps them see their strengths through someone else’s eyes.
If you had to give parents a “confidence toolkit” for their kids, what three things would it include? Also, shouldn’t include.
It would include –
- Empathy – the ability to see themselves and others with kindness.
- Courage to fail – because confidence grows most after we stumble.
- Unconditional love – that safety net that tells them, ‘No matter what, you’re enough.’
And what it shouldn’t include –
- Constant comparison.
- Overpraise for small things (it makes them dependent on validation).
- Pressure to be ‘the best.’
What’s one “oops moment” from your own parenting journey that turned into a great confidence lesson?
I remember when my kids were in nursery – they had a fancy dress competition where each child had to dress up as a character from the story they were studying. Somehow, I completely missed the memo and sent them dressed as something entirely different!
When we reached school and I saw all the other kids in coordinated costumes, my heart sank. I felt terrible and expected my kids to feel embarrassed, too. But instead, they happily walked onto the stage, introduced themselves with full confidence, and enjoyed every moment.
That day, I was the one who learned a big lesson – that confidence isn’t about being perfect or fitting in; it’s about owning your moment with pride, even when things don’t go as planned. Sometimes, kids teach us how to handle our “oops” moments better than we ever could.
Message for mothers who are facing issues and challenges, or think their kid is a “problem child”?
Please know – there are no problem children, only misunderstood moments.
Every child blooms differently. Some need sunshine, others need shade, and some need both in one day!
You’re not failing – you’re learning alongside them. Be gentle with yourself. The fact that you’re worrying means you’re trying – and that already makes you a wonderful mom. It is the kind of parenting voice every mother wishes she had in her corner. Warm, real, and wonderfully relatable, Charu shares her journey of raising twins with a mix of honesty, humour, and heart. Through her stories, simple techniques, and everyday parenting wisdom, she makes moms feel seen, supported, and a little less alone. Whether she’s talking about Mindful motherhood or celebrating small victories, Charu brings a gentle comfort that reminds parents that it’s okay to slow down, breathe, and enjoy the messy, magical moments of raising kids.
And in this heart-to-heart chat, Charu opens up about the tiny everyday moments that shape a child’s confidence, the unseen signs parents often miss, and the playful rituals she uses at home with her twins. What follows is an honest, warm conversation—one that feels less like an interview and more like two mothers talking over chai about the joys, doubts, and surprises of raising children.
Every parent dreams of raising a confident child — but where does that journey really begin? Over morning hugs or bedtime talks?
Honestly, I think it begins in the tiniest, most ordinary moments – when you least expect it. For me, it began when my twins were toddlers and I learned to pause before correcting them. When they built something messy or said something silly, instead of jumping in, I’d just smile and say, ‘Tell me more.’
Confidence doesn’t grow from big pep talks – it grows quietly in those small moments when a child feels heard, accepted, and trusted.
What signs can parents watch for if their child is struggling with low self-esteem?
I’ve seen it in my own kids – it’s not always about them saying ‘I can’t do this.’ Sometimes it’s the little things – like them hesitating to try something new, seeking constant approval (‘Is this good, Mama?’), or giving up too quickly.
Another subtle sign is when they start comparing themselves to others – even siblings or friends. That’s usually my cue to step in, slow down, and remind them that they don’t need to be perfect to be loved.
You often talk about Mindful parenting. Share 5 everyday habits that can make a big difference in boosting a child’s confidence.
I truly believe it’s not about doing grand things – it’s about showing up consistently in small ways. These little habits, when practiced daily, slowly build a strong sense of self in kids:
- Listen fully – without cutting them off, even when their stories make no sense!
- Let them make small choices -like what to wear or how to set the table. It makes them feel capable.
- Celebrate effort, not results – we clap for trying, not just for winning.
- Apologize when you’re wrong– it teaches them that mistakes are normal.
- End the day with gratitude – every night, we say one thing we’re proud of ourselves for. It’s our tiny ‘confidence ritual.’
Social media has become a big part of growing up. How can parents turn screen time into something that uplifts rather than compares?
I think it starts with how we use it. Kids copy what they see. I try to show them that social media can be about sharing joy, not seeking validation.
At home, we turn screen time into ‘learn time’ or ‘create time.’ We follow positive creators, DIY pages, travel vlogs, and even cooking channels together. That way, they see it as something inspiring.
What’s a playful activity or game that secretly boosts a child’s self-esteem while they’re just having fun?
We play something called ‘Super You’- everyone takes turns saying one superpower they think the other person has. Like, my daughter once said, ‘Mama’s superpower is finding lost things,’ and my son said, ‘Mine is making everyone laugh.’ It sounds simple, but it helps them see their strengths through someone else’s eyes.
If you had to give parents a “confidence toolkit” for their kids, what three things would it include? Also, shouldn’t include.
It would include –
- Empathy – the ability to see themselves and others with kindness.
- Courage to fail – because confidence grows most after we stumble.
- Unconditional love – that safety net that tells them, ‘No matter what, you’re enough.’
And what it shouldn’t include –
- Constant comparison.
- Overpraise for small things (it makes them dependent on validation).
- Pressure to be ‘the best.’
What’s one “oops moment” from your own parenting journey that turned into a great confidence lesson?
I remember when my kids were in nursery – they had a fancy dress competition where each child had to dress up as a character from the story they were studying. Somehow, I completely missed the memo and sent them dressed as something entirely different!
When we reached school and I saw all the other kids in coordinated costumes, my heart sank. I felt terrible and expected my kids to feel embarrassed, too. But instead, they happily walked onto the stage, introduced themselves with full confidence, and enjoyed every moment.
That day, I was the one who learned a big lesson – that confidence isn’t about being perfect or fitting in; it’s about owning your moment with pride, even when things don’t go as planned. Sometimes, kids teach us how to handle our “oops” moments better than we ever could.
Message for mothers who are facing issues and challenges, or think their kid is a “problem child”?
Please know – there are no problem children, only misunderstood moments.
Every child blooms differently. Some need sunshine, others need shade, and some need both in one day!
You’re not failing – you’re learning alongside them. Be gentle with yourself. The fact that you’re worrying means you’re trying – and that already makes you a wonderful mom.